Nobody is perfect.
We have all made mistakes. We have all done things we are not proud of. We all have some things we wish we would have done differently and have things in life we wish were better.
Many of us wish we were dealt a different hand.
But here’s the reality.
You don’t have the ability to change the hand you were dealt, nor do we have the ability to change the past.
It’s over. Done with.
What we do have however is the ability to control our future.
We are the ones that decide our fate from here on out.
We can choose to stay in a depression from the fucked up things that have happened to us.
Or, we can choose to learn from our past, learn from our dark times; our suffering, and move on.
You can grow from what has happened, and become a better you because of it.
I can speak from experience and say that you can truly get better from tough times, regardless of how bad they may seem.
Growing up I have been faced with many difficult times within my family. I have dealt with anger, pain, confusion and heartache.
At times it was difficult to focus on things that were important.
You are constantly stuck in a world consumed by the problems surrounding you.
There are times that you are consumed with nothing but anger and pain.
But what I have learned over the years is that you cannot focus on trying to control the uncontrollable.
You must realize that some people are going to do what they are going to do, no matter what you say or do.
So why waste your energy?
Instead, channel that energy into something positive. Think of a goal that you want to accomplish and put that energy that is cooped up inside of you towards that.
For instance, when I was 20 years old I began putting my anger into every workout I performed. My pain became my fuel for hard work and commitment to my goals.
With that, I started making true progress in my training.
Once I started achieving success in my training, I learned that I had control over myself.
So, I began putting that same energy into starting my own business.
I relentlessly studied and applied the material that I was learning, which led to me opening up my own, unofficial business in 2009.
I continued to get better as a coach through my efforts, which led to me working even harder.
Studying and applying this knowledge on myself and my clients.
In 2012 I had a decent sized following so I decided it was time to open up my own shop!
That said, in June of 2012 Tutela Training Systems, LLC was born.
As my reputation as a coach continued to grow, I was able to take on the job as head strength and conditioning coach for Union High School football!
A great opportunity where I worked for 2 seasons while continuing to grow my business.
Since then, my reputation is still growing as TTS continues to get bigger and bigger.
Now, please don’t take that story the wrong way. I am not trying to brag by any means.
I am simply trying to tell you that something beautiful can come from darkness.
Joy can come from pain.
I was able to channel the negativity surrounding me into something positive.
I was so pissed off, all the time and due to that I was able to put that energy into my passion.
And you can do the same. You just have to be willing to.
You have to accept the things that are out of your control, and focus solely on what you can control.
And that starts with yourself.
No matter how hard things may seem at times you have to keep going.
Have faith in yourself that things will get better, and be willing to put in the work necessary to achieve greatness.
In Japanese mythology the lotus flower is a great example of this.
The lotus flower grows at the bottom of a dark, dirty pond. Once the flower blooms it rises to the surface, fully bloomed and beautiful, representing that something beautiful can come from the darkness you were born in.
That story has been able to give me some extra motivation through my tough times, and I hope it can do the same for you.
If you are currently going through something difficult, whatever that may be, remember that it won’t last.
You will get through this, so don’t let it consume you now.
Trust me, you are tougher than you think.
Keep your head up and focus on the greatness that is living inside of you.
Find that greatness and put it to work, you owe it to yourself and the world around you.
Maybe one day you will be able to help the people in need because of it.
Stay strong, and be great.
Catch you guys next week.